Thursday, November 1, 2007

Couch Potatoes in the Parlor of Life?

I recently added a number of workshops as part of my business in coaching overachievers. In developing the content for these workshops, I’ve been doing a lot of reading and research to add new exercises and concepts to my coaching arsenal/toolbox. One book I came across had a powerful introduction that caught my eye:

I have a theory: I believe that many – maybe most – people in the hurry-up, make-do, look-good culture we’re living in have settled way too cheap. A lot of us have given up our passion and let the colors fade out of our experience. We’ve settled for the appearance of an okay life instead of the substance of a great life. In the process, we’ve lost track of what is genuinely important to us. We’ve become couch potatoes in the parlor of life, overstimulated with input from the outside, and increasingly deaf to messages from the inside. We’ve gotten stuck in a ho-hum, “go along to get along” existence.

Now, you may be shaking your head and saying, “You’ve got it all wrong. My life never had the passion and color you’re talking about.” Maybe so. Or maybe you’ve let it slip away a tiny piece at a time – so slowly that you didn’t even notice that it was happening. Either way, you’ve lost yourself in the rush of the world. … Maybe you’re shaking your head for another reason. Maybe you remember the days when your whole life seemed exciting and passionate. Maybe you invest more time and energy reliving the old “glory days” than you do in creating new ones.
  • What do you think? Have you ever felt this way? Do you feel this way now? Please comment...

I’ll talk more about the author in my next post because I think it will spark an interesting discussion.

1 comment:

Jen Cortesi said...

I was once at a job interview during which I was asked, "What is important to you?" Being a 21-year-old college student at the time, right smack in the middle of a campaign to qualify for Intercollegiate Sailing Nationals, I answered something about working hard and measuring progress towards a goal. The interviewer was surprised by my answer. She continued on to say how important her family and relationships were to her.

I think that I would answer this question differently now. For better or worse? Who knows? I have different priorities and responsibilities. Perhaps I am too tired or just too sober to look as overtly excited about things as I did at 21, or maybe my passions are just deeper or more focused. There is no doubt, however, about what is important to me now, a decade later.